How to correctly understand psychological counseling?
2020-05-06 09:27:10
See a doctor if you are sick and spend money on medicine and injections. For many years, the model of "seeking medical advice" has been deeply ingrained. Although the psychological counseling industry after many setbacks is being accepted by people, it is influenced by tradition and there are many misunderstandings. People who approached it found that there was a difference from their own requirements, and those who started it thought it was simple. "I'm mentally handicapped, you can just give me a solution" or "Isn't it just chatting? It takes so much attention to what to do". It seems that some issues need to be clarified.
See a doctor if you are sick and spend money on medicine and injections. For many years, the model of "seeking medical advice" has been deeply ingrained. Although the psychological counseling industry after many setbacks is being accepted by people, it is influenced by tradition and there are many misunderstandings. People who approached it found that there was a difference from their own requirements, and those who started it thought it was simple. "I'm mentally handicapped, you can just give me a solution" or "Isn't it just chatting? It takes so much attention to what to do". It seems that some issues need to be clarified.
1. Psychological counseling ≠ counseling, teaching and handling good problems
People only think of psychological counseling when they have psychological problems, but most psychological problems cannot be solved by simple preaching. For help-seekers, they think that psychological counseling is a counselor who helps them come up with a solution to the problem and asks to get a good solution to the problem as soon as possible, but most of the problems are social psychological problems, and each problem There are also different treatment methods, and different personalities and thinking behavior patterns will have different thinking trends. Therefore, in the eyes of different people, there are different methods. As a consultant, the correct method may not be suitable for visitors.
Formal psychological counseling is that the consultation worker and the client make the client discover the shortcomings in their personality during the discussion and discussion, and solve and perfect the shortcomings through the consultation, and then the client comes up with a method. On the contrary, if the counselor makes a decision on a certain type of problem for the visitor, this violates the principle of psychological counseling. If a person consults with several different psychological counselors, he will teach him several good strategies, and he will definitely be at a loss at the end, and if he takes a shortcut to follow the negotiated decision, he loses his sight. Not to mention the personality, the next step for the psychological counselor to correct is "consultation dependence".
There are many visitors, especially telephone visitors, requesting that the psychological counselor should have encountered and dealt with their existing problems (it seems that only the psychological counselor answers yes, they can rest assured) Only in this way will he sympathize with him and understand him. It is natural for psychological counseling staff to have deep experience and more experience (it does not exclude the suspicious personality traits that the client himself has not yet realized), but it is not necessary to ask the psychological counselor to have a similar experience, whether or not Similar experiences will be treated with great compassion. There is also a phenomenon in which the purpose of the visitor ’s consultation seems to be to seek sympathy. For example, if a party in love thinks that the condition is superior, but the other party is not enthusiastic and active, then if he solves his problem according to the principle of consultation, he will appear uneasy. , Maybe he will say, "My condition is so good, you should sympathize with me and criticize him (she) is right!" I didn't realize the defects of my own cognition, and then returned to the original state afterwards. Or how to say "good medicine bitter, loyal to the ear"?
3. Psychological counseling ≠ mental illness, disgrace, and decentness
Although people currently understand psychological counseling, some people still think that they are "mental psychosis", or have reached the level of mental illness and then come to the psychological counselor. Some psychologists have done statistics, and 26.3% of them come to the psychological clinic to reach the diagnosis standard of severe psychiatry. Some people think that it is disgraceful and unrespectable to see a psychological counselor. , For fear of being discovered by others. In fact, in some countries, people's understanding of psychological counseling is just the opposite of ours. For example, in the United States, a young man arranges to meet his counselor before dating his girlfriend. When dating, he may show off in front of his girlfriend. I have seen a counselor before, because she feels that her boyfriend attaches great importance to her and dating, and secondly, he thinks he attaches great importance to quality of life.
4. Love + Morality + Talkable ≠ Psychological Consultation
There are many misunderstandings among the host of some radio, television and newspaper columns. Through these news media, they have a high reputation. The purpose of the program is to help people solve problems. People's evaluation of these hosts may be "mentor of life". Their eloquence and writing are fluent. They often judge the visitor's distress from the perspective of a moralist, and distinguish people's psychological problems into right and wrong, between what should be done and what should not be done. Moral and ethical contradictions are the root cause, as far as psychological problems are concerned, there should be no right or wrong.
For example, on the radio, the listener called to participate in the program, and the problem was that the spouse had an extramarital affair, and complained of their distress in confusion and confusion, making people sound as if they were all the other party ’s fault. (Audience) In addition to sympathizing with the participants, it is a condemnation of attacking in groups. In fact, the other party has an extramarital affair, and there must be a variety of factors or responsibilities in their own side. In addition to sympathy, it also helps visitors discover problems in life and correct cognitive processes. As far as morality is concerned, people's emotional confusion may be due to the contradiction with morality. After all, they cannot be replaced by each other. On the contrary, moral condemnation of the other party or the visitor will also increase the psychological burden of the visitor.
Some visitors deify the psychological counselor. A psychological state is that the psychological counselor is engaged in psychology, and the psychological problems of the visitor should be visible at a glance, otherwise it is incompetent. Another psychological state is that the visitor is ashamed to express his inner feelings and does not want to reveal his psychological activities, thinking that the psychological counselor can guess. In fact, the psychological counselor is also a human, and it is only through the use of psychological principles that the questions provided by the interviewer can help them. Just like when a cold or fever occurs, the psychological counselor first measures the body temperature with a thermometer and then formulates a treatment plan.
6. Pleasant voice + empathetic ≠ psychological consultation
It seems that as long as you have a sweet voice, no matter what you talk about, you can talk, cater to the psychology of the inquirer, and attract people. This is the standard. Although some people use the subtle word "psychological adjustment", in the conversation with the host, the caller has treated the host as a psychological counselor or regarded the process as psychological counseling. The role played is hard to say except for a little relief. There are also some seekers whose purpose is not for consultation, and the hardship may only be known to the host himself.
